From the moment that I found out I was pregnant with our first child, I wasn’t sure what kind of mom I was going to be. I had always dreamt of being a mom, and now that it was here, I had some thinking to do.
It has been almost 8 years since the moment that the I saw that positive on the pregnancy test. I was kind of in denial and I was excited at the same time. While it wasn’t exactly planned at the time, God knew what we needed. During the pregnancy, I was cautious on what I ate and what I drank, mostly water and Sprite, sometimes sweet tea! 🙂 And A LOT of Mexican food! haha.
But ever since I first held my baby girl in the NICU, and bringing her home and learning to be a mama on the outside and not just the inside…thankfully I had my mom there for a few days at least to help and show my some things about motherhood! Although some things you learn by doing, especially with motherhood! You learn as you go! Fast forward a couple years, we are pregnant with our second! This one was planned! Although our first wasn’t planned, we love our little girl! While our little girl would much rather be with Mimi and Papaw, our son loves to be home with mommy and daddy! Our daughter likes to be home with us too, but if Mimi and Papaw are an option – she goes with them! haha!
But I still wouldn’t any of our special moments, even the hard ones, for anything. I love my babies so much!!! And no matter how old they get, they will always be my babies!! One of the things that I would wish for, is that more pictures are taken of me with my babies. I have pictures with them, but more than 75% of them are selfies that I take with them. The other 25% are pictures that I schedule for the family. I want pictures of me and my kids that I don’t have to ask for or point out, “This would be a cute picture, can you take it, please?” Then I will hear a sigh, as if I’m being selfish or something, when all I want are pictures with my kiddos, that aren’t selfies. So when you see my kids trying to take selfies although they are super young – that is why. Because that is all they see – their mom taking pictures with them because no one else does or will. And I don’t mean this against anyone, but I hear a lot of moms saying this, and people say they will, but then they don’t actually do it.
Even when I schedule family pictures, I will invite others to join us, such as my in-laws as such. That way they can have nicer, professional pictures with their grandkids, instead of others taking them or selfies and such. It doesn’t always work out, and that’s fine. But even with that, I still try to think of others and such. And no one thinks of the mom.
Since Mother’s Day is coming up – ask her what she would like. And listen to her. Whether it be a quiet day at home, the dishes cleaned that she doesn’t have to do herself, or whatever it may be. Listen to her! Don’t sigh at her and what she would like. We, as moms, do a lot. And no one says anything, until they see it not being done. The house will be a mess, and then something will be said, or maybe it won’t. Then I will start cleaning or “angry cleaning” as my husband likes to call it. While it may or may not be angry cleaning, sometimes I would just like to not have to clean up, but then it gets too bad, and it won’t get done, if I don’t do it. The mom isn’t the only one can clean up. And that is something that needs to be said. While it is the “traditional” way for the mom and wife to do all the household things – it’s not always possible. I am currently working full-time, and have a hour to drive to work, and an hour home. And yet, when I get home, I’m expected to clean up, cook dinner, and such. And some days I won’t get home till at least 6pm. Then we try to get the kids to bed around 8-8:30pm. That’s not very much time to spend with my kids.
I’m not saying any of this to down my husband, he’s great, but it would be nice to have a little more help! 🙂 And this is also not my point for this post either! I got sidetracked! Sorry!
I have also had the privilege of being a surrogate! Which was amazing!! It was an experience, and I would do it again! Seeing the joy on the parents faces while finally getting to hold their miracle baby was definitely worth all the pregnancy symptoms! Especially that Pregnancy Cold – that was horrible!!! HAHA!!!
Being a mom is one of the best things in the world! Is it hard? Yes! Is it exhausting? Also, yes! But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I love being a mom!
If you’ve read this far, thank you!
I also have a question to ask of you! I am in a “Super Mom” contest! It is a free to vote, and you can vote once every 24 hours! I will attach the link here!
https://thesupermom.org/2025/stacie-key
The top 5 cut-off is on Thursday, May 8, 2025. I would greatly appreciate each and every vote!! Thank you!!
Adventures Of Motherhood 