You are Enough.

Whether you just had a baby, are a long-time mom and done having children, are currently pregnant, want more kids, or whatever it may be, there is one thing you need to remember. You. Are. Enough.

It is hard no matter what stage of life you are in, that feeling of “I’m not enough.” will always be there. Whether we are actually told that we are enough or we aren’t, or we feel it or we don’t. It is okay to tell yourself that you are enough. It’s not selfish or being about yourself. It is helping you feel that you are enough. Whether you feel like you can’t fully be there as the mom or the wife, especially while recovering from having a baby – you are enough. I am focusing this mostly on after having a baby and recovering because that is where I am at right now. But no matter what stage of life you are in, you are enough.

I recently had a baby, and if you read my previous blog, you know that I was a surrogate, and it wasn’t my baby. And with that part, yes, I’m still okay! I am super happy with the family and finally having their miracle baby! And even though they don’t live super close to us, they still text us and send us pictures of the little guy! And that helps a ton, in my opinion!

What is hard for me right now, is that while I don’t have a newborn to take care of and get up in the middle of the night to feed and change diapers, there are still other things that I feel need attention. Even though I am in recovery still and technically not supposed to be doing a whole lot still, I feel like I should be doing more. I feel lazy because I look around and see everything that needs to be done. There is always something that needs to be done, though, right? We still need to remember we need to take care of ourselves. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t be able to take care of our family like we need to.

It also helps to have help and know you have help. And don’t be afraid to ask for help. That is something that I have majorly struggled with, but in the last year or so, I have started asking for help more. I don’t have many friends, but the ones I do have are there to help, when I need it. Even if it’s just to talk and listen to me vent about something or just to talk!

So the above was written while I was still in the early recovery stages of postpartum. Which in all honesty, you are still in recovery that full first year. And especially lately, I have still been feeling like I’m not enough. For my husband. For my kids. I feel so inadequate for so many reasons. I love helping people and being there for others, that I tend to forget about myself and that I need things too, and that I need to take care of myself or else I won’t be much good to my family. Don’t be too busy filling other people’s cups that you forget to fill your own.

So often, the mama is forgotten about after having a baby. Everyone is all about the baby, which is fine. But the mom needs to be checked up on too. They grew a human being inside them and moved there organs around so the baby could fit and grow and they had to make sure that baby got all the nutrients they would need so that they could grow at the right rate and to be healthy. That is not always easy. The changes the mom and mom’s body goes through – it’s a lot. We do it multiple times, yes, but that doesn’t mean it get easier each time. Yes, we love it and that’s why we do it and we love our babies and our family, but life is still hard.

All that to say – no matter what, you are enough. Whatever your best is, that is enough. Don’t give up on yourself. You are enough. You are strong, even though you may not feel like it. ❤