When I was still pregnant, I would be given advice about after pregnancy, such as, “Don’t feel guilty about sleeping when the baby is sleeping”. Does that sound familiar to anyone?
Did you ever find yourself ever taking that advice or tip? I do, every once in awhile. Instead, I’ll work around the house and try to get it looking nice for when my husband gets home from work. Isn’t that what every husband wants when he gets home from work – to walk in the door and see a clean home? Which yes, he understands that we have a new baby and everything and that I should rest when I can, but sometimes I just have to clean the house.
Sometimes I won’t be tired, so that’s when I’ll try to get things done around the house. I’ll admit, if I need to rest, sometimes I’ll sit on the couch and write or watch something on Netflix or a movie that we already own. That’s resting, right?! I know it’s not the same as sleeping and getting literal rest, but sometimes I just can’t sleep. Especially when there’s so much to do around the house. Laundry. Dishes. Vacuuming. Just cleaning, in general. When the house looks relatively clean, I sleep better. So wouldn’t it be more productive and/or ‘healthy’ if I sleep after I get some work done, so I’ll sleep better? I could be totally wrong/backwards, but I don’t know. It kind of makes sense to me! But then again, I think many things make sense to me that do not make any sense to anyone else. I’m just special, I guess.
On the days that I actually have plans to get things done, like I’ll actually have a list of what I want to get done or at least get started that day, those are the days that my daughter is actually awake and doesn’t want to sleep at all during the day, so I’m usually doing something with her. Holding her. Playing with her. Just talking to her, so she can listen to my voice.
There’s also something with that, too. Those times where she is awake, even when she is sleeping, I don’t want to lose those moments, those times to just hold her, to play with her when she’s still little and will let me hold her and just love on her. Because I know that she won’t be little forever, and she may not let me hold and love on her that much. I’m hoping that as she grows up, she will still want to do things with me, like just go out and shop or get some ice cream, or make something together (like a smoothie or milkshake! – I love making smoothies and milkshakes!) and sit on the couch and watch a movie together. Just spend time together. Have mother/daughter dates, and kick daddy out of the house (or at least out of that room!) and have a girls night sometimes and what not! 
I want to make as many memories as I can with my daughter! I want to make as many memories as I can as a family too! Not just me and her, but with her daddy too! I’m all about pictures and capturing the moments! Yes, we have our minds to remember things and moments, but seeing the pictures, the big smiles on our faces, it does so much for someone. Just to see the smiling faces again.
When we lose a loved one, what do we when we miss them? We usually go back and look at pictures and memories and reminisce on those memories, right? They will usually make us smile again, sometimes it’ll make us cry seeing them, but we need to remember the happy times we had with that person. Pictures say so much! 
I know some people get annoyed with me and how many pictures I take and feel like I’m constantly taking pictures, but it’s just how I am. I’m not constantly taking pictures, I do take a lot of pictures, but I’m not constantly taking them. I love pictures, and I love looking back at them, and remembering those memories, like a trip that we took together or a baby’s first…insert whatever the first thing is, or whatever it may be. We don’t have forever, and while someone may take ‘too many pictures’ to you…one day when that person isn’t here anymore, you may be thankful for all the pictures that they took.
I’m not trying to be depressing, sorry it kind of turned into that, it was not my intention at all. But it is true, we need to cherish the memories. We don’t need pictures of everything. Even if we do take pictures of everything, you don’t have to post them so everyone sees absolutely everything of your life. You do need to keep some things for just you and your family. Keep some for your personal family album, or whatever it may be. Don’t broadcast everything about your life. I used to kind of be like that, I would post about everything I did. I didn’t think I did, but my family said and thought I did, and after awhile, when I grew up a little more, I realized they were pretty much right. I didn’t post Everything about my life, but I did post a lot.
Anyway, I have gotten a little off topic from where I started, sorry about that! I tend to do that a lot! Oops! Anyway, I was just trying to say that, yes, we women should rest when the baby is sleeping, or just hold her when she is awake, even if she falls asleep in your arms, it doesn’t hurt to keep the baby there! You don’t have to put her down somewhere just because she falls asleep. Hold the baby! Cherish those moments where they lean on you! You are the mother (or father, if any men read this, I don’t know if there are any men that do, but if there is…) of that child – cherish those moments! You won’t have them that long, they won’t be that little forever! 
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